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LAIR OF THE PENMAN: REAPING THE LUSTROUS NODS
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Tuesday, January 31, 2006

REAPING THE LUSTROUS NODS

The need for approval can be so addictive. Is there anyone that doesn’t in some way crave the occasional pat on the back? What is really hard is when people, especially parents use that tool as a form of control. They will intentional withhold approval or restore to constant criticism in order to keep their child or whoever from having the kind of esteem that would lead to independence and a positive as well as maturing life. It is sadly a very subtle form of abuse. One that doesn’t leave the kinds of scars easily seen, but they are still felt so intensely.

I have been participating in a given writing’s web site for several months now. It is place were many writers put their work on display for others to read and enjoy. Every participant is encouraged to spend time reading and living uplifting forms of comments about this work. That can be very encouraging at times.

What has totally shocked and appalled me is the number of members who have posted works related to some terrible abuse heaped upon them by their parents. This strikes a nerve to the one with me since I came from that type of horrible childhood and my own nightmares and horrors make me extra sensitive to seeing it in others.

I can escape the obvious question of how can parents be so incredibly cruel and sadistic? I realize that when I’m reading this person’s work I’m only getting their interpretation, but I appreciate how often their comments are grounded in some fact.

I have no explanation on why the Lord allows such terrible pain to be inflicted on small impressionable children. I do know that such sin is not without accountability. And like any other sin, God does grant us the free will to do either good or bad.

I can’t say I have been the perfect parent, but I have honestly tried not to treat my son the same way I suffered. I guess you would have to ask him if he feels this has been loving.

What I do know is that God sees everything. And he can and does often give us those small hugs. They don’t come with thunderbolts or voices in heaven. Sometimes it is in a less dramatic way. But when you feel God’s caress through a blessing or soothing moment of calm, his spirit often taps one on the shoulder just to let us know it was from him.

Perhaps we can’t always look forward to the complete deliverance in this life from the perils of all the harm Satan inspires in some. Maybe we may not even be able to find more fans than enemies in life. However the great joy is knowing the day will come in the Lord’s presence when it will be replaced by the type of family that will give us hugs that will last forever.

I pray if this is your valley that you will find a small ray of peace and hope from this posting. And rejoice in knowing no matter the tongues who only know how to speak hate in this life, the day will be here eventually where we shall only hear from the ones that speak love.

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