RELATIONSHIP

If there is one part of life that I'm not sure truly makes sense it is relationships. They can so mix us up in terms of feelings that we can be incapable of thinking clearly.

And yet being alone can be so difficult when you need the company of another's voice. So we struggle, reaching out with arms of need, hoping to find love along the way to embrace.

From what I have observed though it doesn't happen as much as we wish. And sometimes it seems that people truly never even find it as intended.

Of course I think part of the reason is because often a relationship doesn't touch us as needed. So it leaves a whole in our lives. One we so need to be filled.

Only it gets complicated if the hole involves a marriage. For that is always a complicated relationship. It has so many facets and side roads to travel.

Which naturally complicates trying to fill the whole. Hopefully with dialogue involving the one you love.

But what if the dialogue doesn't help? What if you bear your soul and it does not good? Now that can be extra hard.

The truth is people often have a nature that doesn't change and can't be reasoned with. It is fixed in the concrete of this mind and heart. Mixed with certain drives in passions and needs and will not change because you reason with the person.

Sometimes light can be shined into a person's shadows. And change can take place. It is knowing this aspect that often does inspire us to hope a person will listen to reason.

However this doesn't happen all the time. There are occasions when people simply never are capable of being other than bent in a given direction.

So you have to leave them in the Lord's hands and ask the tough question. Can you love them as they are?

That is never an easy question to ask. And an even tougher one to honestly accept when you know the answer.

I've seen what happens when people ignore the question and do not face the truth. How many times it eats at them in way that truly does bring some form of heartache.

How easy it is for the mind to pretend when thinking of answers. And it truly is not easy to in some way actually listen to God's answer. For is wisdom may truly not be something comes close to our desires. Only it is the truth and that is what we have to embrace if we ever truly want the holes plugged.